Imagine having a family member or friend who always starts a conversation with I, Me or My. They can’t stop talking about themselves, their lives or their job. It is extremely difficult to have conversations these types of people. Their need to dominate the conversation is hard to deal with because it is always turned back onto themselves. They rarely will ask if you need anything or if they can help you out in any way.
It might seem hard to believe but just sit back and listen carefully to these people speak. You will see in extreme cases it is literally every single conversation that is turned around to, “I think…” “I know this…” “When I went…”
Those who focus exclusively on themselves will constantly bring all conversations back to themselves. Depending on the person, some can be the negative type but hopefully more on the positive. It is easier to deal with a person who is narcissistic and positive rather than selfish and negative!
If they are negative, watch out! This type of person can only be listened to for so long because they can drain the life out of you. Especially if they are always blaming others for their problems, or if you don’t meet their needs or wants on a certain thing. They may even be focusing on the negative things in life, for example: it’s raining again or the traffic light is red again, every time I come this way the traffic light is red!! The anger they must feel when something doesn’t go their way or people don’t go along with how they feel or think.
Although, I imagine this type of person must need a lot of confirmation of how good they are doing or they need you to confirm that they did a good deed and they need you to specifically say, “yes you did good.” They have very low self esteem. They feel the need to be fulfilled by others because they don’t have enough confidence in themselves to carry on through life.
It is very difficult to explain this behavior to the person involved. They just don’t “see it” because they might have been this way for a very long time, years perhaps. They might not have had anyone in their lives long enough to help them because it is a very difficult to continue relations with anyone of this nature. Relationships with these types of people don’t last long because they are spiritual and energy draining.
You might have a hard time with the person if you are trying to explain it to them. You might actually end up in a heated argument because of it. Good luck to you if this is the type of situation you are in.
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